More on Internet Dating

Alright, I know I put internet dating down yesterday. You have to admit the concept is great; especially in this day and age when singles are working around the clock and are having a hard time meeting anyone. Yet the internet does have its drawbacks, as with anything else. I do realize I myself have never yet tried internet dating, but many of my friends have. I am relying on their experiences for some of these blogs as well as what I have heard in the media, etc. The ads on internet dating sure sound good. Who doesn't want to find that "love of their life?" I know that’s what I want. Believe me I have found love before, who hasn't. Sometimes the one you love with all your heart and soul does not feel the same about you. You meet someone, fall in love, but they don't love you back. There is nothing you can do about it; it’s a fact of life. This happens in many people's lives probably more than they care to admit. How does internet dating incorporate with this?

Internet dating promises to find that one individual who will love you as much as you love them (or some random promise like that). I look at this and I see: you fill out questionnaires and "profiles" about yourself (At least some I guess. Again I am going on what I have been told), my question is: How do these profiles and questionnaires keep someone from lying to make themselves "sound" better? They don't. Anyone can lie on these. You still can get paired with the wrong person over and over and over and over. So where do you draw the line on the rejection, the pain, the realization you have been "had" again. When you go out with a person it usually takes months before their true self comes out. Think about it, if you only spend a couple hours a week with someone it would be very easy to mask your real self. So, if when you're with them they can lie to make themselves sound better, what's to stop them from faking a profile, a questionnaire? I don't know. It's so hard to trust people (Well for me anyways and that story will come out later.) But I am sure everyone has been beat down in some relationship which made it hard to trust the subsequent relationships. Some guys can look you directly in the eye and lie; without flinching, blinking… nothing (I am sure some women can do this as well). You WANT to believe the person, yet red flags come up. Then you think maybe it's my own paranoia because the situation parallels a past experience which completely ruined you. So what do you do? Go by gut instinct? But then are you being fair to the current person. It's so hard to answer this. The last relationship could have been horrible. In the new relationship, you could have a person who is up front, truthful in every way, tells you everything (even if it hurts); but something happens that hits too close to the past relationship and you freak out. Ugh! Relationships are so hard whether you find them on the internet, speed dating, video chat, blind dates, etc. No matter how you find them, they WILL take work, guaranteed. The question you need to ask yourself: Is it worth it?

Until tomorrow…