Love, Or Lack Thereof

Love. We all want it, yet so many of us can't find it (at least mutual love, the "key".) The Colbie Callait song says it all when she sings; "I am trying, not to tell you, but I want to, I'm scared of what you'll say. So I'm hiding what I'm feeling. But I'm tired of holding this inside my head." I LOVE that song. I truthfully can be a hopeless romantic. What is it with some of us? We grow up watching Disney movies… Cinderella, Snow White, Sleeping Beauty….and we get brainwashed. Yes, you heard it correctly BRAINWASHED. Those movies are so romantic, but they are NOT reality. A man on a white horse comes and takes you away from everything: all the pain, all your problems, he sweeps you away to a place where reality does not exist! You grow up watching those movies / films and you expect it, want it, and you need it. You start dating and it is NEVER like that. A knight in shining armor on a white horse comes and takes you away. Yeah right! Someone needs to make a cartoon which shows the reality of love!!!!! Someone needs to help the next generation to NOT have the same expectations of love that most of us grew up with.

We live in the day and age where each day we say every 4 letter word in the book. Yet, we all want to hear the 4 letter word that is the hardest to say. "Love." Okay in context: "I love you". Yes, we may get it from a child or a friend, but so many of us want to hear it from a person, that one person, who we may never hear those words from; the one person that means more than anything in the world to us. No, we don't want it used callously. We want it from the heart. Don’t do us any favors by telling us you love us when you do not mean it. Sometimes I feel like I am the only one in the world feeling these feelings. Yet, I know so many others are in the same boat. They want to find that "love of their life." God! I so want that. But you know what? I am also so afraid. I just got out of a marriage of 19 years. I was with him 23 years. I am scared to death! But, I am human. I do have feelings. I still want to find love. I do not know where. I know I love someone now, but, he does not love me back. He may care for me, maybe, possibly, but not love though. That's okay. You can't make someone love you. I don't WANT to make someone love me. Even if I love someone with all my heart and soul, if I REALLY love someone that much, I DO so want them to be happy too. It may be hard. It may be so VERY hard. But, if you love someone, truly and completely love someone; you will want the best for them. No matter how much it hurts at the time for you. You will want them to find happiness, even though it is not with you! Remember this: Love is not love if it is brought out of guilt. DO NOT GUILT SOMEONE INTO LOVING YOU! Really, I do so want love…. But I am soooo afraid of marriage... I am so afraid of commitment right now. But I want it. Messed up! I know. I am contradicting myself! (I am committed in my mind to someone… just I am one of those "fault without cause" people. Love the one your "with" kind of gal.)

So, why not just say it even if you do not mean it? Happiness stems from being loved and wanted, one of the basic psychological truths in each of us that demands fulfillment.
On the other hand, people kill each other daily, others withdraw into deep depression, and some even take their own lives - all for a lack of love, or "in the name of love". The first murder was a result of Cain's envy, because he perceived that God loved Abel, his brother, more. How many others, whether famous, or just one of us, how many have taken their own lives in the name of love? Too many.

The word "love" may be only be four letters long, but it is the most powerful word in the world. Why? Because the word love describes the most amazing feeling residing in every persons heart and soul - emotion! But, love is a double-edged sword. It can incite a soul to do heroic deeds on one hand, yet cause death and destruction on the other hand.

Being loved, and knowing you are loved, makes one confident and happy. Look around you. Can you look at a person and tell who is truly and completely in love?

Quote:
"If you have a friend worth loving, Love him. Yes, and let him know That you love him, ere life's evening Tinge his brow with sunset glow. Why should good words ne'er be said Of a friend - till he is dead? "- Anonymous

Until tomorrow……